BECOME THE MAN YOU WANT TO BE.
Build the relationship you've been hoping for.
If you're tired of pornography, secrecy, shame, or feeling disconnected from the people who matter most, you're in the right place.
Together we'll work toward lasting change, not just better willpower.
If this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.
Maybe you've promised yourself, "This is the last time."
Maybe your wife or partner found out.
Maybe you're carrying shame that no one else knows about.
Maybe your relationship feels more distant than it used to.
Or maybe you're simply tired of feeling like you're living two different lives.
Whatever brought you here, you're probably not looking for someone to judge you. You're looking for someone who understands why these patterns develop, what keeps them going, and how real change actually happens.
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You've tried relying on willpower, deleting apps, making promises, or telling yourself this time will be different. If that hasn't worked, it doesn't necessarily mean you're incapable of change. It usually means there's more happening beneath the surface than you've been able to see.
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Ruptures and betrayals in a relationship are difficult, but not necessarily the end. One of the big things I work on is the reparation process. Through healthy reparation, you can move forward after a betrayal, and often have a relationship you never knew could exist.
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The topic changes, but the conversation always seems to end the same way. You both leave feeling misunderstood, frustrated, and farther apart than when you started. Those cycles can change when you begin understanding what's happening underneath them.
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Many men assume their problem is a lack of discipline. More often, the behavior has become a way of coping with stress, loneliness, shame, or emotional pain. Understanding that pattern doesn't excuse it—but it does create an opportunity to change it.
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You're dependable at work. People trust you. You solve problems for everyone else. Yet your marriage, your emotional life, or your private struggles feel completely different. You don't have to keep carrying that burden by yourself.
You probably didn't expect to end up here.
How I can help
Understand the emotional patterns beneath pornography use and build healthier ways of coping.
Infidelity & Betrayal Recovery
Rebuild trust through accountability, honesty, and meaningful change.
Break unhealthy communication patterns and strengthen emotional connection.
Why should you work with me?
Most of the men I work with have already spent months, or years trying to solve these problems on their own. They've read books, listened to podcasts, installed accountability software, prayed harder, or promised themselves this time would be different. When those efforts don't last, many begin believing something is fundamentally wrong with them.
I don't believe that's the right conclusion.
My approach isn't about labeling you or shaming you into better behavior. It's about helping you understand why the pattern developed, what continues to fuel it today, and how to build healthier ways of responding to stress, relationships, and difficult emotions. Together we'll focus on more than stopping a behavior, we'll work toward helping you become the kind of man you want to be.
Many men ask: “Is what I’m experiencing normal?”
The answer is often yes, and there’s a pattern to it.
I created a 5-stage model to help you understand what’s happening and what to expect as things improve.
Download the 5 Stages of Problematic Behavior Recovery (Free)
Many of the men I work with come in feeling stuck, frustrated, or unsure if things can really change. Here’s what some of them have said after doing the work:
“Gary is a non-judgmental, compassionate, insightful, and often funny therapist. Heal yourself while being entertained by his off-the-wall analogies that are spot on”
-Former Client
“Gary has helped me view myself and the world with more empathy and grace. I am blessed to work with him.”
-Current Client
Take Action: Schedule Your Free Consultation
Ready to take the next step in relationship repair counseling? Contact us today for a free 15-minute phone consultation.
I offer telehealth therapy services for anyone in Texas and Idaho, so whether you're in Dallas, Fort Worth, Houston, Austin, Boise, or Meridian or any other city in Texas or Idaho, I can provide the individual therapy and mental health counseling you need.